Ways of Showing Courtesy

There are simple  but hard to spot ways of showing courtesy. At times there are things we do that doesn't show politeness. We do those things, thinking that they are the right thing to do. A courteous person is respectful, polite and considerate. He/ she does somethings without acknowledging it because they have mastered the act of courtesy, and that has built up there character.

We don't only show courtesy when occasion demands. It is a practice that should be imbibed in us. It should be an act that we do unconsciously. Many at times, some people lack courtesy.  Courtesy shows how morally sound you are. It shows that you are built morally and intellectually.

Courtesy is necessary especially in social gatherings, because that's is where we meet people from all ramifications of life. Its where we meet sane people, insane, normal, abnormal, in fact different categories of people.

Showing courtesy is not a hard job as some people see it. At times it is pride that makes people think that showing courtesy is a big job to do. When you show courtesy, people will consider you as a good person, someone who does not only respect himself but others as well.


The simple ways of showing courtesy are:

• Apology: apologizing when you are wrong isn't a big deal. Some people find it so hard to say these simple words; " I am sorry". It feels so heavy for them to say. Saying ; " I am sorry" doesn't mean you are weak , but it shows how humble you can be to admit your wrongs and how mature you are also. So many relationships has failed because both parties killed it with ego. They can't admit their wrongs or apologize, there by putting their relationship in jeopardy. There is something that triggers the mind when someone apologizes sincerely. The mind will be lifted a bit and it will be calm especially when two people are seriously angry at each other.  It calms the mind down to a good state.
• Gratitude: there is nothing as sweet as having a heart of gratitude. Some people are so grateful that any little thing you do for them, they will always appreciate it. I can remember some days ago, my little cousin asked me;" why do you always say thank you whenever we do something for you or whenever you want us to do something for you" . I replied her by saying; " it is a normal thing to do; you have to appreciate whatever people do for you no matter how little it is and the person that does it for you as well". Saying thank you to someone shows you appreciate the person and what they have done for you, and when you do that, they will be glad to do more for you. God himself loves appreciation, he loves it when you appreciate him for what he has done for you not you complaining of what he hasn't done for you.Even kids, want appreciation, everyone wants appreciation, when you don't appreciate what people do for you, they will not be triggered to do more for you because they will feel you are an ungrateful person, and God doesn't like an ungrateful heart.
• Do not hang up on someone during a phone conversation: hanging up on someone during a phone conversation is rude. It shows that you do not respect the individual enough ,even their feelings. Wait until the conversation is over no matter how in a hurry you are or how angry the person might have made you. If you can't continue the conversation, kindly inform the person that you cannot continue the conversation that you would love it if "we"' can end the conversation. If the person is understanding, he/ she will respect your decision.
• Stand up for an elderly person to seat, or a sick person or a pregnant woman.: when you are in an environment or even a place you are familiar with, or a gathering. You don't keep an elderly person standing. At times they might not feel like sitting down, but just try and stand up and ask them to have a sit, and if they refuse, then know that you have tiried your best. 
• Offer people help when they need help: Offering to assist people is a good way of showing courtesy. For example, a tribe in Nigeria have made it a tradition, especially among young people. They can't see an elderly man or woman carrying load without offering to help them. It is a very remarkable acts.

***** thank you for your attention. Till tomorrow I will give you the rest of the tips*** remain courteous and beautiful.